Wedding seating charts aren’t easy but they are often times necessary. So when it comes to “seats of honor” who goes where? Wedding seating is something that can result in hurt feelings so it’s important to give it some thought during those final weeks of planning.

Let’s start with your table (after all, you are the guests of honor!). What kind of table is best for you?

Sweetheart Table: A small table dedicated for the bride and groom.

Things to consider: 

  • You will get to spend time chatting with your new spouse (might be the only time all night!)
  • Gives you more flexibility with the room configuration
  • Your bridal party (hello, maid of honor) won’t be seated beside you to help you with anything you might need (this can usually be fixed by placing them close by)
  • People will want to come up and talk to you, which may be distracting when you are trying to eat

Head Table: A long table (usually rectangular) that’s set up as a focal point in the room with the newlyweds and their bridal party on one side of the table facing the guests (no one is seated on the other side).

Things to consider: 

  • Everyone at this table is on display for all the guests to see
  • Your wedding party is close to you and it’s easy to chat with them
  • This configuration usually doesn’t allow room for your wedding party’s significant other so they are seated at a separate table (which is often awkward if they don’t know anyone)
  • People are less likely to come up to your table to chat during dinner time

King’s Table: Same set up as the head table but people are wrapped around both sides of the table. This configuration will most likely leave room to include wedding party and their significant others.

Things to consider: 

  • You are close to your wedding party without having to delegate their significant others to a “plus one” table
  • You are less on display making it even less likely that people come up to your table as you are eating
  • If you would still like to be visible, consider placing no one across from you and your new spouse

Sitting with Guests: Exactly what it sounds like! No special table you are just mixed in, typically with your parents.

Things to consider: 

  • You are the guest of honor so your guests may want to be able to easily see you
  • You are most likely situated with family instead of wedding party (make sure both sides are represented at the table!)
  • Your wedding party is able to sit with their significant others in this scenario as well

Eating Privately: Many couples are opting to eat dinner prior to introductions in a private room.

Things to consider: 

  • You have a few private moments on this momentous day together
  • You will not be interrupted while you eat (so their will be no hangry bride or groom!)
  • It gives you more time to visit each table during dinner since you won’t need that time to eat

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Photo courtesy of The Colonnade at Revolution Mill.