It’s the question that everyone asks, but no one likes to deal with. Will kids be invited to the wedding? We are here to help you navigate through this age old debate.


Should They

You may want to consider inviting kids to your wedding if…

  1. You are having a flower girl and/or a ring bearer
  2. You have nieces and/or nephews that you want to be in the pictures and a part of the celebration 
  3. You are having a more casual affair
  4. You are more go with the flow and can accept any possible tantrums that may happen 

Shouldn’t They

You may want to consider not inviting kids to your wedding if…

  1. You are having a more formal affair or black tie event
  2. You don’t have any little ones you have a special relationship with
  3. You don’t want to deal with the additional logistics for kids – seating, food, entertainment
  4. You will get upset if a child acts up and causes a scene – you never know with kids!


Invitation Wording

Regardless of your decision, address your invitations appropriately so your guests will know exactly who in their family is invited. This will avoid any awkward calls from your guests with children asking you if they can bring their kid(s). 

If you are inviting kids, include the children’s name on the inner envelope (in a more formal invitation) or the outer envelope (if you only have one envelope!). If you are not inviting kids, be sure to word the envelope with just the invited couple’s names. 


Pro Tips

Decide early on! Don’t wait until the last minute to make a decision, you want to be decisive so guests with little ones can make arrangements if necessary. 

If you do decide to include kids, consider hiring a wedding babysitter. The parents of those little ones will appreciate it more than you know. Platinum Sitters can help you with all your wedding day babysitting needs! Get a private space at the venue, or drape of a corner of the room, fill it with coloring books, games and kid friendly food. The kids will be much happier in there, anyways!


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